Now, I know there's a lot of people out there who are afraid of really embracing who they are and being confident about expressing their true selves. Why? Because one of the earliest things we learn in life, is how we "should" be. Society, Religion, and Media, they all tell us how we "should" and "shouldn't" be. And people are noticing more and more about the damaging effects. We're taught that bigger girls/women and boys/men should be skinnier, and that skinnier girls/woman should have bigger boobs and bigger butts, and boys/men that are skinnier are supposed to have more muscles. We're taught that a girl/woman should love a boy/man, and that a girl/woman or boy/man shouldn't love another girl/woman or boy/man. We're all instantly given a mold a birth, and we're supposed to fit in that mold. That's what is going to make us "socially acceptable". And sadly, because of this, so many people can't be who they really are, and sometimes it's get's so bad, that they don't even know who they really are anymore, because they have to put on a mask every day and pretend to be someone that they're not. Why? Because they're afraid that they won't be loved or be socially acceptable. It's gotten so bad that the age that people start to hate themselves because who they are different than what they are "taught", is getting younger and younger. I've read about 8 year olds becoming anorexic because they thought they were "too fat", or 12 year olds killing themselves because they were homosexual.
How could we have let things get so bad, that we had children, who've barely even lived yet, taking their lives, and trying to change who they are because of what society, media and religion has taught us, before we started to even make the effort of changing things?
It's only recently that we've had larger sized women being allowed to model. And now you're seeing more and more that big is beautiful, and this is a great thing... But at the same time, we're hating on people who are skinnier. And we shouldn't, because this creates a double standard. And you find that "big" and "skinny" are being 'grouped'. You almost always see either all bigger women, or all skinnier women. Rarely will you find an even mix between bigger and skinnier. And that's what we should have, we should have an even mix. Because this teaches us that ALL sizes are beautiful in their own ways. There is no superior or inferior size. Everyone should be beautiful, girl/woman or boy/man, no matter their size or body shape or anything like that. And everyone should be able to look into a full body mirror, and actually feel beautiful.
Another issue that's finally being addressed is the one about same gender love. For many, many years, it has been frowned upon for someone to love someone of the same gender, and this has caused so many people to lead lives of lies. Why? Because they were afraid of what might happen if people were to find out that they weren't "normal". They've been taught that loving someone of the same gender sentences them to eternal damnation. But that's not true, because love is love. Love has no gender. Even if you look at the definition for love, no where will you see it stating anything about gender.
love/ləv/
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noun. affection - fondness - darling - passion
verb. like - be fond of - fancy - adore
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I had asked a friend of mine "just one question first, do you feel better about realizing about being a lesbian?"
And this was what she replied:
"Well to be honest, I identify as Pansexual. Because I will not judge a person on "what's in their pants". But to most I just say lesbian because I do love women the most and it is hard to explain to some about what Pansexual means. I do feel better realizing who I am and what I like. It does feel good to have a sense of who you are. It's sad that us humans need a label to feel better or pushed or rushed into picking a label, because in reality, who the fuck needs one? We can find someone and fall in love. Simple as that. A human being falling in love with another one, or multiple. I could go on rants for ever and ever. But one that always comes up is that there are a few parts to a person. There is
a) Sexual attraction
b) Gender Identity
c) Fantasy
d) Behavior
Sexual attraction is said to not be a choice. This is who we are attracted to. Gender Identity is what we identify as a person. Gender Identity is not linked to sexual attraction. We can identify as anything and be attracted to anything. Just because we are an FTM (female to male transexual) does not mean we are automatically attracted to girls. And fantasy is what someone can fantasize about. A straight man can fantasize about a man, but does not automatically make him gay. And behavior, a lesbian could have slept with men in the past or does now, but she herself identifies as a lesbian. So as you see these four things doesn't not rely on one another.
It's a long journey to figuring out who you are, meaning gender identity and sexual orientation. But first of all, you are not allow. There are many out there that you wouldn't even suspect are gay or trans or anything else. Just reach out. What help me most is reaching out to others and asking silly questions. All of the people I reached out to were happy to help. So please just reach out!
The best thing when wondering what's going on inside yourself is to education yourself, learn the proper terms and things like that. And also as an ally you need to education yourself to understand." -- Cassie M.
So what I'm trying to get at here, is that, you should embrace who you are, no matter how "different" it makes you, and you should love every little thing about you that makes you, you. You're amazing no matter who you are.
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